So, what's missing? What's the answer to our problems? If I have not love, I am nothing (1 Corinthians 13). What I've found is most people are addicted to self. I was going to name my book "me me me it's not all about me." Unfortunately, most of us are very focused on ourselves. Here's proof, do you know what WWW stands for? I say it stands for Wanting, Worrying, and Whining. These three W's are typically focused on self and what's missing or wrong, versus gratitude and possibilities. How many men and women spend much of their thoughts, motives, and behaviors on wanting, worrying, and whining? I know I did. Wanting what wasn't mine or that I had worked for or putting my wants ahead of others (which is a self-first getting motive).
Some people genuinely do put others ahead of themselves, and I appreciate those who do. However, many of us have put self-first much of our lives. Secondly, I have spent more time worrying what's wrong or what could go wrong, versus what's right or I can do to make it better. As well, helping others see the upside and encourage them to see the hope and possibilities. Love always hopes. Worry is very self-focused and rooted in a belief of lack or not enough. It's very dangerous to our motivation and ability to see the good and work for the good. Worry tends to bring us down and our relationships down.
Third, is whining or complaining. It's an "I can't" or I won't statement that can be a very unhealthy habit rooted in the lie of lack and motive of fear. All three W's are rooted in fear and self-pity or greed. We were never created for, or hard wired for, this belief, motive, or behavior.
What we were created for and are wired for, is to love one another. To give to others by putting their needs ahead of our own. The joy is in the giving. The right motive brings the right motivation. We are also designed to put our trust in God and follow His ways. God is a giver not a getter or a taker. God is love. Love does not want for itself (sin). Love casts out fear. When we know His love we want to give it. And when we love others we know His love even deeper.
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